How to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Have you recently broken up? Do you want your ex boyfriend back, but don’t know how to go about it? Here are some things to consider.
Let’s be up front about one thing — being desperate will not win your boyfriend back. In fact, if you appear desperate and needy, it will only serve to push him farther away from you.
No, instead you will need to listen to the steps to be taken with a clear mind and unemotionally if you are to have any hope of winning him back.
First thing, do not call or text your ex until you have let some time go by and you have done some clear thinking. Communicating with him while you are still all upset will further strain whatever bonds that remain between you.
Take the time to stand back and think about what went wrong and why the relationship ended. You need to be honest about your needs and wants, and also his needs and wants.
Once you have done this, the first thing you need to do is forgive your ex boyfriend for any and all wrongs. This may be hard to do, but you will never be able to rebuild a relationship where grudges exist or hurt feelings are still present.
You may also find out during your self-evaluation that you are possessive and clingy. This can be a difficult pill to swallow — but if it is true, and you do not recognize it and then take steps to correct it, your relationship is doomed.
All of this will take some time and during that time you will be apart. That is okay. Time apart under these circumstances can make the relationship stronger. Start by assessing the things that caused the relationship to fail. This may take some time but it give you self confidence.
The next step is to review in your mind things that you shared together that were good. Perhaps places you visited, foods you love in common, experiences you shared. Send him a written note letting him know of some time or place you shared that you were thinking about.
Don’t be pushy or demanding. Just let him know you are thinking of him. Don’t try to be someone you are not — he knows you and will be able to see through it.
Wait and see if he responds to your note. If he doesn’t, then let more time pass or accept that the only thing he offers you is even more heartbreak.
Remember, it is going to take some clear-headed thinking and self control to get your ex back. You have to recognize the problems that existed between you. Fix what you can, but only if you are being true to yourself. Don’t change something about yourself that you don’t feel you should change.
You stand the best chance of winning your ex boyfriend back by your own personal growth and forgiveness. You will never win him back through being needy or vengeful.